what is making the coolent go go into my head but not in oil

Just to add a thought......would pressurizing the cooling system help confirm if it's actually coolant getting in cylinders (I'm not familiar with how that engines set-up or if you can see into the cylinders well with a light to tell).

im pretty sure becase it will start as long as there is no coolent in the radeater

Sounds like time for a re-build or an engine.