REQUIRED REPAIRS OR LUCRATIVE PROFITS?

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I hav been having my truck servied by the dealer for the past 6 years since I have had it. I have been adhering to the maintenance schedule on a quarterly basis and I have not had to have any major repairs. I was last at my dealership in Ramsey, NJ in 05/09 at which time I had an oil change and other things done totaling $500.00 I have now been advised that I need my timing belt "adjusted/rest" which will take all day (8 hours) and cost $995.95. In addition, I have been told that I also need to have my water pump "servied" in conjuction with the timing belt which will cost $1549.00 by itself. I need front struts and links done at $767.50; rear shocks at $416.50 and a wheel alignment at $100.00 All of these "repairs" are suggested to be done simulataneously which average of $3,000.00. I have never trusted mechanics in the past because I have had numerous bad situations. How do I know if these things are absolutely necessary at this time or just a way to make $$$ for the dealer. Most people do not got to dealers because of the cost. I want to go to someone who is ASE certified but competent and not exbortitantly expensive. I have looked t you list for shops but most of them are dealers and if they are independent how do I know if they are full service and competent to perform the suggested repairs. They also suuggested that I will need a fuel injection and engine flush and other "minor" repairs. I do not see any of these things listed in my owner's manual as needing to be cone and if so when ideally it should be. I valuse my vehicle and cannot affor any major expensive repairs and I have limited my driving to local no more than 30 mile round trip. Any suggested for second and third opinions from COMPETENT, HONEST INDEPENDENT ASE CERTIFIED MECHANICS in my area of within a 20 mile radius. I AM NOT INTERESTED IN TAKING MY VEHICLE INTO NYC WHATSOEVER. I PREFER (BERGEN COUNTY) NJ. Thanks.