how do i reset the oil change date?

What is your question?

had my oil changed, they couldn't change the service reset. since then the orange wrench shows up on dash, and now the orange check engine light is on. Please help.

What makes this problem better or worse?

orange wrench shows up while driving, now the orange check engine light is on

How long has your 2006 Mazda Tribute had this problem?

three days