Clutch replaced now gears either not shifting into 1st or reverse and or stick.

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As I was shifting into 1st to pull out I heard a pop an couldnt shift out of neutral. My shop quoted me $1200 to replace clutch kit, flywheel & slave cylinder. After repair mechanic stated he couldnt crank the car, last thing he can try is replace starter (more money). I drove car home but within a few days noticed it was shifting hard. I got the same advice by a few people to give it a few wks its normal with a new clutch. Well it got increasingly diffacult to shift, (mostly 1st). Then as Im sitting at light one day it took 2 green lights to get into 1st. My mechanic says next time this happens pump my clutch then let him know if it helps. It did help next few times this randomly happened. But then it quit happening and was shifting great. A mo later it randomly started again and now with reverse also. The car could shift so smoothly for days then Id get off of work and be unable to back up, when I did get in reverse gear would then stick an Id havs to stall the car to get out of reverse. Mechanic says the adjustments are correct, he tried bleeding the clutch an it went to the floor. Says fluid was leaking so not enough preassure to engage the clutch an would be another $350 parts/labor to replace clutch master cylinde. After paying $1740 an issue still not fixed I couldn't afford another $350. Sev wks later and desperate I have my brother who is semi knowledgeable look at it, he loisened bolt from clutch push pedal an adjusted it. It worked great like I was expecting the 1st time for about a mo, I thought he had found the real problem, but after I let my roomate drive my car one day sge said it wasn't shifting into reverse sev times that day. Which it was shifting beautifully up till she drove it, dont know if she did anything caysing this or problem came back. I dont want to pay more money just to be told another problem arises or its still having sane issues or if Im just going to have to go with his word to get a working vehicle again. My car is 130,000 mi.