new starter relay. where it plugs into the fuse box, there is no ground

Hello, I'm not sure what that means. Are you saying there's a problem with your fuse box? What is the concern you are experiencing? It may be too complex to discuss in this forum; I'd recommend a local shop near you have a look. Use this link to find some shops near you that can help with your concern: www.repairpal.com/repair-shops