I have had many cars in my life and never had this problem. It's either an Engineering problem or a defective part. It's not like the engine is rumbling like a souped up Nova or anything. Honda says it isn't their fault. It only has 85,000 miles on it. The motor mounts may have been cracked for a long time. The car was bought new and never been in a wreck.
2004 Honda Pilot that that has broken engine mounts. Anyone with this problem? on 2004 Honda Pilot
Sacrifice between smooth engagement of gears and isolation of drivetrain vibrations over some durability. Driving conditions have an effect also.